There is no doubt that caring for elderly parents requires strategy. I hear it and see it daily: the need for strategy. Being in the industry I read All Things Senior so I can bring news and trends to my community and families. Working in the senior industry and caring for elderly parents, I am continually bombarded (not too strong a word, I don’t think) with folks having problems because they had no strategy. It seems clear to me that there may be multiple reasons we are lacking in the Strategy department. Mostly I encounter stories of “Shoulds” and “Sadly-didn’ts”.
“Shoulds”. Oh, we should (insert action here). We really need to (insert another, if you don’t have one we bet you’ve heard one). You can think of three planning topics for elders right now, can’t you? Simple enough, quickly done, right?
“Sadly, didn’ts”. We probably all know of someone who had not planned, had no will or other estate planning (or failed to keep it current). You know of someone that did not, for whatever reason, budget for the long term. Someone has the wrong kind of medical insurance, or none at all. Someone lost their home or declared bankruptcy due to medical bills. Someone ran out of money for nursing care. All these examples show how when caring for aging parents a real strategy must be developed or disaster awaits.
For the sake of shock value and a little sizzle here are a few examples of well-known people who are “Sadly-didn’ts”.Did you know that Jimi Hendrix died without a will, and Abraham Lincoln died intestate, the legal term for not having a will (and he was an attorney!)? Bob Marley knew he had cancer and died intestate; his estate continues to generate money today, with claimants and family has suing over use of his image. Even former Chief Justice Warren Berger of the United States Supreme Court self-prepared, leaving out what were considered to be normal provisions.
More often than not, NAVIGATE NC encounters a family after the “Shoulds” and inside the “Sadly-didn’ts” of developing strategy. Despite all the words of warning, best intellect and dogged intent, a situation bubbles up and the matter at hand will not go away. It is producing problems, pain, confusion, and at times, quagmire. We are experts at developing strategy no matter the position you are in.
As Professional Advocates we are ready (and nimble!) to quickly size up situations and provide solutions for remedy. An objective set of outside eyes can be invaluable when the family is “inside the kaleidoscope” (one of our favorite phrases, do you like it?).
So while selecting the right -ATE word for this post these words began to compete for prominence. (By now you know that our theme is here is using a word ending in –ATE; we use verbs because we are in action!) Jockeying for position were: ANTICIP-ATE , FORMUL-ATE, CALCUL-ATE , MACHIN-ATE, PREMEDIT-ATE, and ORCHESTR-ATE. I simply halted. No one word seemed to hit it for me however each word brought a unique perspective that was deserving of consideration.
ANTICIP-ATE – One thing’s for sure, our ages will advance. And so will Mom and Dad’s or Aunt Louella’s. We learn (but perhaps choose not to respond) the need to be ready, to plan, to seek the help of those who can help us strategize. We can agree that we should be ready. The time will come. Of course we must strategize.
FORMULATE – yes, a plan is clearly needed for our loved one’s care. Let’s put one together. (Simple, right? How about Tuesday?).
CALCULATE – Number-crunching comes to mind, like how are we going to save, pay for care, budget for the coming years (and they are coming…). In the context of strategy this word could mean forethought, likelihood or the turnout you want. For example a calculated risk might be made based upon the bearing of statistics of which we are aware.
MACHINATE – With its slightly diabolical connotation like scheming or plotting this word still holds some merit for an Advocate. “Oh, we can make that happen”. Rolling up our sleeves, doublin’ down, this word has intent all over it.
PREMEDITATE – With the “pre” meaning before and the ”meditate” meaning to give thought, listen or plan, this word may present the ideal. Unfortunately when I hear “premeditated” the next word in my mind is always “murder”. Clearly I am the product of too much media.
ORCHESTRATE – Thinking of “AN orchestra”, this word may conjure up a group, each responsible for his/her own part yet but also with intent to work in concert to produce an end result. Members look to a conductor to lead and to bring the production along. Not everyone likes the music, but everyone can appreciate the effort to produce it.
We all need it, but we do not all use it. Maybe we do not know how to find it, how to put it to work for us ,or simply how to develop a strategy. Perhaps it is a good time to get some education by consulting with an Expert. A call to NAVIGATE NC to set up a free consultation is a good idea.
Strategy: NAVIGATE NC Advocates can help during the “Shoulds” and in the Sadly-didn’ts”. Hiring a Professional Advocate IS a strategy, and we will bring with us more. Professional Advocates are great planners, and we are also great responders. Let’s talk about ANTICIP-ATING and PREMEDIT-ATING and what that looks like for your family. We can assess and FORMUL-ATE a plan customized for your concerns.
Leave the ORCHESTR-ATING and MACHIN-ATING to us. It is our Expert-ise to manage the efforts of, or for, your family. We will roll up our sleeves to make it happen (that’s advocacy, y’all). And family can focus on being family rather than caregivers, being responsive to your loved one and not always to a dilemma or challenge.
Hiring a Professional Advocate IS a strategy.
Where are you with your loved one’s care? When help is needed to ANTICIPATE FORMULATE CALCULATE MACHINATE PREMEDITATE and ORCHESTRATE we are there for you and your family. Connect With Us to schedule a free consultation or give us a call now at 919-628-4428. Let’s talk STRATEGY.
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